Big Moral Dilemma? How Should I Feel?

What you're ex did to you was very unfair. I can see the logic in the divorce, but moving in with someone else one week later is just suspicious. You should not be worried about hurting her feelings because she is obviously unconcerned about yours. As for this girl, if you love her go for it. But first, ask yourself this; do you love her looks, or do you love her personality? are you unknowingly using her as a way to ease the pain of your divorce. If not, realize that love knows no boundaries. My friends parents have a ten year age difference, and they get along fine. However, you must also take into consideration whether or not she is ready for you. Does she feel the same way that you feel about her? is she ready to raise another child when she is only nineteen? It really is a complicated situation. If you can, I would suggest talking to her about how she feels about you. If your feelings are returned, you need to start thinking about how you can incorporate her child's life into yours, and whether or not she is prepared to deal with a new relationship with you. Most importantly, talk with your ex brother in law if you can. It's important that you let him know about the possibility of you dating his ex. Once you sort through all this extra stuff though, from what you are saying it seems that you truly care about her. wait to finalize your divorce, and be totally sure about her feelings before trying anything. shes younger than you, so be respectfull and don't pressure her. who knows, maybe she likes you, but just isn't willing to cause so much family turmoil for you